Promise Day 2023: Life becomes easy with a loving partner. No matter the phase, the presence of a caring and affectionate person can turn even a rough ride into a joyful experience. Trust, respect and support are the foundation of any relationship and when it comes to turning it into a lifelong bond, one needs to make certain commitments or promises that could not only help nurture the relationship but also make it ever-lasting. (Also read: Valentine’s Week 2023: 5 ways to surprise your partner this Valentine’s Day)
While the initial phases of a relationship is all about getting to know each other and one develops a strong attraction towards their partner, with time the feeling settles down, and the reality comes into picture where the partners stay in a relationship if their values and goals are similar. Over a period of time, if people are true to each other, they develop trust and respect for each other and may also turn this bond into marriage. Treading slow and carefully in a relationship is important but once you have found your Mr or Miss Right, try to strengthen your relationship with a set of promises or commitment.
Promise Day is celebrated on the fifth day of Valentine’s Week and is all about assuring your partner that you will not leave their side no matter what.
“Finding your perfect life partner is not easy, but maintaining this relationship is even more difficult. A perfect relationship is a journey, not a destination; a journey which requires both partners to put in their best every day. Of course, it is never going to be a plain sailing, but if both partners decide to keep a few promises, it will definitely be a great experience!” says Saurabh Goswami, relationship expert and founder and Director of Ultra Rich Match.
Goswami also shares some of the promises to make to your loved one on this day:
1. Promise to respect and honour
It is important that you never forget that respect is the foundation to any relationship. Even when in a disagreement, the boundary of individual honour and self-respect can never be crossed.
2. Promise to keep past in the past
You both have lived your lives, traveled your own journeys till now. You’ve both must have made some mistakes and might have taken some regrettable decisions. But it is of utmost importance to always keep in mind that the past is past. Bringing up past mistakes as a means to win a present fight will only create dents in your relationship.
3. Promise to Support
Every individual requires support from their peers, especially their special someone. It could be emotional, physical or even spiritual at times. Make sure that your partners knows that you are their for them in their hard times. I recall an incident where a client went to meet his fiancée when he was feeling low because of a business loss. The client shared that his fiancée was so supportive and just stayed with him for almost two hours, holding his hands, without talking. That was when he knew that he had found his perfect partner.
4. Promise to give them space
In any relationship, it is important to understand that you both are two different individuals. You both may have different lifestyles, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Just because you are in a relationship should not mean that you have to forgo being your own person. Give your partner space to pursue their hobbies and go out with their set of friends without feeling guilty.
5. Promise to not get jealous
In continuation to the above point, your partner may have their own set of friends, some closer than others. It is paramount that you respect their choice and friendships without giving them a third degree every time they get off their phone call or are getting ready to go out. Many a promising relationship break because of small misguided jealousies.
6. Promise to take interest in their interests
Though this point might seem in conflict with the previous, both apply to different circumstances. When you are a couple, you have to make sure that you share some hobbies or routines as your ‘us-time’. It could be a watching a serial together every day, your morning walks, gardening together or even making breakfast together. But you have to put in efforts to be together at least some time of the day where you just enjoy each other without bothering about anything else.
7. Promise to forgive
This one promise trumps all and sundry. Maybe your partner had a bad day and took it out on you. Or maybe they forgot your anniversary. Do make your dissatisfaction known to them, but keep your mind open to their circumstances also. A heart-to-heart talk about your problems will help you in forgiving and moving on.
